Insecurities

I have been thinking a lot about how my friendships are formed and how some of them sadly end and the ones that go on forever and tend to get stronger as time goes on. It seems like a major factor in regards to all of these friendships is security and confidence. Just like with a romantic relationship friendships require time, effort, and the ability to be comfortable with the other person. When one person starts becoming more insecure about their place in this relationship or get jealous (towards me, other friends of mine, my boyfriend, etc.) things always go south. All the friends I have that have been around for a long time (by long I mean five plus years with continuous contact), we have never had these insecurity problems. Insecurity is a huge issue and sadly I don't have the time to put up with it. I know some people can not help themselves when all they can do is think about how someone has it better than they do or a friend who acts consistently negative towards everything! Do these people not realize that no one wants to be around a person who is pessimistic and hesitant? It's not attractive when you compare yourself to every girl that walks by or make fun of people eating sour cream because you think they are fatties or make fun of me for stupid reasons. We all have our days when we are in bad moods but I can't surround myself with people who are like this all the time. I know girls can be bitchy and I have my moments but pull it together and grow up.

On a side note, I love the friends I do have who constantly make an effort to see me, who don't need alcohol as a stipulation to see me, who don't flake on our dates, who allow me to grow as a person because I know they aren't judging my words or ideas, who I am comfortable with, who love that I am happy because they are just as happy, who care about how my family is doing, who make me smile and lastly the friends who I can share educated mature conversations with. I hope you know who are friends and thank you for making my life enjoyable.